"She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life." Proverbs 31:12
"Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long."
As I continue to delve into my studies of the Proverbs 31 woman, I am deeply impressed by her relationship with her husband. This woman’s intent is to NEVER bring harm of any kind to her man. Instead, she lavishes him with love, attention, and a myriad of blessings. This tells me that she is a woman who forgives freely and generously. She doesn’t hold a grudge and isn’t overly sensitive. She sees the bigger picture. Her sense of self-worth is found in God alone. She doesn’t look to her husband (or her kids) to fill this role. If he has had a bad day and his mood reflects it, she doesn’t take it personally. Because she knows who she is in God’s eyes, she can rise above it and look for ways to bless, encourage, and minister to her husband. She doesn’t waiver in her role as his helpmate, even when he doesn’t treat her as nicely as he should. (I am not condoning mistreatment of any kind here.)
This is my challenge in today’s verse. I can be so easily upset by my husband’s mood. I take things way too personally. I need to get a broader perspective. His moods are based on his own day-to-day experiences that usually have nothing to do with me. If I can grasp this, and stop looking to my husband for my own sense of self-worth, I can be freed up to be the kind of wife I want to be. I can channel energy into "treating him generously" instead of reacting emotionally. This is so inspiring! Now comes the fun part ~ finding a way to apply it today.
"Contrary to what a good forty years of feminist propaganda has claimed, it is not oppression, subjugation, or abdication of any feminine quality-of-life potential to marry a man, be proud of your bonding, rejoice in your gifts and sacrifices for your marriage and family, and derive pleasure and sustenance from your role as a wife and mother." ~Dr. Laura Schlessinger Same verse, The Message